This week is "Heavy Metal" week on NPR's "Fresh Air" radio program. It's been an awesome listening experience. I'm going to download the podcasts.

On today's episode, Metallica's lead singer and guitarist James Hetfield talked about his battle with various demons and how therapy helped his personal life and also his fellow band members mental health and relationships in dealing with each other.

There were many great things that he said, but one in particular stood out for me. This is not verbatim, but as close as I remember.

"The amount of love you give someone when they are in your life is equal to the hurt you get when they leave."

Why does this have to be true? Why do we have to have heartache when any type of relationship ends? My theory is (and I know it's not always the correct one...what a shock ;o) ) is this: If you feel no pain, if there's no hurt, then maybe the relationship didn't mean as much to you to begin with. If you feel pain, that's exactly what you are feeling. Pain comes from injury. Or as Nate says, "Pain is weakness leaving the body". That could be weakness that comes from being dependent on someone else in the past for your own happiness, and now you are lonely. Or it could be pain from the loss of your family member, soulmate, and friend. Any way that it hurts, we all hope that the pain will subside with time. It's what you do with that time that helps you heal faster and better with less scaring.


At peace,
The Tara

Currently listening : All at Sea By Jamie Cullum